Good communication is difficult. Especially when care giving issues for a loved one arise. As you approach your care giving journey keep lines of communication open with family. Or at least try. One more challenge on the care giving platter.
Hopefully you are blessed with siblings and extended family who enjoy healthy communication. And they are able to speak openly about difficult subjects like care giving and end of life issues that may arise in an aging parent.
Generally family dynamics take a downward spiral during a crisis. Weddings, funerals and other intense life events stir the pot of unresolved family conflict. Just a fair warning.
My own experience in the communication arena was not text book perfect. Conflict, tears and anger arose frequently on all sides. The best part of my story is that everything ended up on a good note for everyone. Each of us experienced unsolicited growth during the difficult process. That equals success.
Chances are your family dynamics may not be optimal either. Knowing that conflict will be part of the process may help, or not.
Have a Goal in Mind
- Always try for a civil conversation
- Keep your own tone even and calm– This may help set the tone for a peaceful interaction
- Prepare a list of suggestions for a plan of care.
- Home health may be a benefit.
- Hospice may be beneficial if your loved ones have a terminal diagnosis.
- Keep an open mind to others feelings and suggestions that may differ from yours.
- Listen respectfully to opposing views. Someone else may have a good solution.
- Siblings don’t always agree. That’s okay.
- Keep in mind that all concerned may be frightened and react out of fear.
- Anger is often a mask for fear
- Fear of the future, the unknown and the possible pending death concerning a loved one may be a factor
- They may be anxious over interacting and facing difficult decisions
- If you are the primary caregiver gently assert your concerns and ideas. Let others have their feelings and express them.
- Did I mention to include your loved one as you plan their future?
- People may experience growth through the crisis.
- Pray before major decisions or interactions occur.
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