Who is caring for the caregiver? Probably no one. Caregivers are often so busy and overwhelmed with the care of their loved one that their own needs are neglected. They may be too busy to communicate their needs to others.
Caregivers typically put others first, neglecting themselves as well. The thought is I can take care of myself later. My loved one is the priority. The fact is that the caregiver may suffer from burnout and get sick themselves if they choose not to care for themselves.
Certainly the loved one is a priority. But taking care of one’s self is important too. Many may think that self-care is selfish. This thought could not be further from the truth. In taking care of ourselves, we become stronger and more empowered in our caring.
Keep it Simple
Since no one is caring for the care giver, self-care is vitally important. One thing caregivers can do is to “keep it simple.” Consciously make a decision about daily priorities and tasks. Let go of the least important items. Initially the caregiver may think I can’t let go of anything. But sanity and well-being can start with simple choices.
Perhaps the house can be cleaned once every 2 weeks instead of every week. Or instead of visiting a loved one three times daily, drop down to two times a day. Care giving may actually become more intense as a loved one declines and visits may increase out of necessity.
Basically this concept seems easy. However, putting the idea into practice can be difficult. Emotions run high. Feelings of guilt may surface over not cleaning the house, not spending your entire day with your loved one, and anticipatory grief over the loved ones’ pending death are all possibilities.
Trying the concept slowly can be a good approach. Change is difficulty. Look at what is on your plate on a day to day basis and eliminate one small bite at a time. Take time to keep it simple.
Prayer for the Caregiver
Father, I pray for the caregiver who is overwhelmed and fatigued. Provide them with the resources and energy they need. Help them to let go of unnecessary tasks that can add to exhaustion. Multiply their rest, and refresh them in the morning. As they turn to you in prayer fill their cup to overflowing with your love, peace, grace and power for the day. Amen
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